Evening lovelies! Today’s post is going to be a bit different from the usual, but it is something that I have been wanting to discuss for a while and I received a message yesterday that made me a quite angry to be honest, so here we go! ;) Yesterday I shared the above photo on my Instagram and Tumblr, it is photo of a store-bought ready-made breakfast parfait that I bought after a meeting to enjoy on the train on my way home. I was extremely hungry, but the train was so crowded that I didn’t feel like eating it until I got home (hence the extra toppings).
The message I received about the photo was very impolite, angry, condescending and preachy. The woman who sent it were very upset that I apparently often seem to buy these kind of ready-made meals as she finds them to be for lazy and unhealthy people that doesn’t care about the environment. She wrote that I should be ashamed of myself to promote these kinds of meals. She also accused me of passing store-bought meals of as my own and acted as if the photo from yesterday was prof and that I was finally busted. The whole thing honestly seems super bizarre to me, but I have noticed that a lot of people (especially on social media) are shaming others for buying ready-made meals or for example prepped/pre-chopped veggies, salads etc. and it really bugs me, so I thought I would write a quick post with my thoughts on the whole thing.
I would like to start by making it clear that I have never presented anything store-bought or ready-made as my own creation, quite the opposite actually, like with the photo I posted yesterday I always share if a meal is not something that I have made myself and I see absolutely no shame in that. Yes in a perfect world it would of course be much better if I made all my meals myself, but I do not live in a perfect world and sometimes I just need a quick meal on the go between meetings, sometimes I am too exhausted or in pain because of my back to cook something myself and sometimes I simply do not want to spend any more time in the kitchen. It is my job to cook and create recipes and most of the time it brings me great joy, but sometimes when I am stressed and have already been cooking most of the day, then I simply want to be able to buy something that I can enjoy while relaxing and watching Netflix.
I could of course make sure to always brings snacks and meals with me on the go or to meal prep and have meals ready in the fridge and freezer for those days where I don’t feel like cooking or don’t have the time, but I am very far from being a perfect person with everything planned, who’s always well prepared and who always makes everything from scratch. I do not plan my days much, I like to be spontaneous, I am a total dreamer who spends too much time inside my own head, I am always running late, I am always a bit stressed and yes this means that I also rely on buying ready-made meals or takeout once in a while and I do not see the problem with that at all. There are so many amazing, tasty, affordable (haha kinda, my bank account would probably disagree) and healthy options out there, I love that you can find ready-made and heathy meals everywhere these days, they have them in most grocery stores and even in 7/11 now. I bought the parfait above in 7/11 and they had a surprisingly large selection of healthy meals – including organic, vegetarian, vegan, paleo and raw options! There’s obviously also a lot of less than healthy options out there and I enjoy those too, I have never been one of those people who eats healthy 24/7 and I never will be. I don’t see anything wrong with eating a pizza, enjoying a soda or a bunch of candy once in a while, I have never claimed to be some health guru who eats healthy all the time, quite the contrary actually. I have always been very open about eating healthy about 80% of the time, but indulging in the less healthy options (and loving it!) as well.
Anyways, my point with this whole post is that you should not feel bad that you are not some superhuman who always make everything from scratch, who meal preps, brings snack and meals on the go and always eat 100% healthy. It is very few people who has the time, energy and determination to do this (I think you are amazing if you do!), most of us do not have it and that is more than okay. I am tired of people shaming other people (in any way), nobody is perfect – though there is such an immense pressure to be just that. Let’s just give each other a break – it is completely fine that you buy prepped and pre-chopped veggies or salad to serve for your family when you are exhausted after a long day of work (yep it is easy and definitely cheaper to do it yourself, but what if the alternative is no salad, but a much faster and unhealthy option?), it is perfectly fine to buy a yoghurt cup or a fruit cup on your way to work because you hit the snooze button too many times to have time to make breakfast and it is perfectly fine to order a big fat pizza for dinner to enjoy while watching tv – you deserve that pizza bby!
Lots of love and kisses from yours truly ❤︎